Stalking is “The willful, malicious and repeated following and harassing of another person”(Meloy, 1998).

Stalking may include a set of various behaviors such as:
Repetitive unwanted phone calls
Sending unwanted gifts (romantic or bizarre)
Repetitive pursuit of a relationship
Showing up at frequently visited places
Waiting in parking lots, workplace, neighborhood
Manipulation (i.e. threatening suicide)
Written messages (texts, IMs, emails, letters, graffiti)

If you think you are or know someone who is a victim of stalking, here are things you can do:

-Notify the unrequited person that further contact of any kind is not acceptable and the relationship is over/not wanted.
-Be direct and assertive.
Avoid tones/phrases that may indicate the person will get a “second chance” or that you are playing “hard to get.”
Often a victim tries to be nice when rejecting someone. A stalker may take this as the green light to “try harder.”
-Avoid contacting the stalker. The stalker may gain hope that there is a chance for the relationship.
-Avoid threatening the stalker. Sometimes this may result in a counter-harassment.
-DOCUMENT interactions.
-If the stalking continues, notify law enforcement. Obtain a restraining order or an injunction against harassment.

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Meloy, J. R. (1998). The psychology of stalking. In J. R. Meloy (Ed.), The psychology of stalking: Clinical and Forensic Perspectives (pp. 1-23). New York: Academic Press.